Building a Network of Support: Friends, Mentors, and Online Communities

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Last Update: September 6th, 2025, Estimated Read Time: 8 min

Why Support Networks Matter

Young adulthood is a period marked by independence, exploration, and growth. For individuals with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), it can also bring unique challenges. While this stage offers freedom and opportunity, it often coincides with increased responsibility, complex decision-making, and evolving identities. Without the right supports, the transition can feel isolating.

Research shows that young adults with ADHD are at higher risk for academic and occupational challenges, mental health concerns, and difficulties in relationships compared to peers without ADHD (Barkley et al., 2008). These challenges are not signs of inadequacy but reflect differences in executive functioning, self-regulation, and social interaction. A strong network of friends, mentors, and communities, both in person and online, can provide the understanding, accountability, and encouragement that young adults with ADHD need to thrive.

Common Challenges in Young Adulthood with ADHD

Young adults with ADHD may encounter:

• Social struggles: Impulsivity, distractibility, or inconsistency in friendships.
  
  
• Workplace or academic stress: Difficulty managing deadlines and responsibilities.
  
  
• Emotional challenges: Greater risk of anxiety, depression, or rejection sensitivity.
  
  
• Transition stress: Adjusting to independence, from budgeting to balancing relationships and careers.
  
  
• Isolation: Feeling misunderstood or excluded from peer groups.

These challenges highlight the importance of supportive networks that can buffer stress and reinforce resilience.

The Role of Friendships

Friendships are central to well-being in young adulthood. They provide companionship, empathy, and encouragement during a time of rapid change. However, ADHD-related behaviours, such as interrupting, oversharing, or missing social cues, may complicate friendships.

Strategies for Building and Maintaining Friendships

• Be open: Sharing ADHD experiences with trusted friends reduces stigma and fosters empathy.
  
  
• Practice active listening: Focusing on what others say, using clarifying questions, and summarizing key points show attentiveness.
  
  
• Use reminders for social commitments: Calendar alerts or notes reduce missed plans.
  
  
• Balance energy: ADHD often brings humour and creativity. Noticing when intensity overwhelms peers helps sustain balance.
  
  
• Handle conflict calmly: Pausing before responding allows for more thoughtful interactions.

Supportive friendships help young adults feel valued and included, while also offering a sense of accountability.

The Role of Mentors

Mentors provide guidance that goes beyond peer relationships. They can help young adults with ADHD navigate academic, professional, and personal challenges. Mentors may include professors, workplace supervisors, older peers, or ADHD coaches.

Benefits of Mentorship

• Guidance and modelling: Learning from someone with more experience helps clarify goals.
  
  
• Accountability: Regular check-ins encourage consistency and follow-through.
  
  
• Emotional support: Mentors provide reassurance during setbacks.
  
  
• Skill development: Mentors can teach strategies for organization, decision-making, and communication.

Research highlights that mentoring relationships support self-efficacy, goal achievement, and resilience in young adults with ADHD.

How to Find Mentors

• On campus: Professors, advisors, or student leaders.
  
  
• At work: Supervisors or colleagues who show interest in development.
  
  
• Through ADHD coaching: Professional mentors trained in executive functioning strategies.
  
  
• In volunteer or community settings: Leaders of clubs or organizations.

Building a mentoring relationship requires openness, clear expectations, and willingness to learn.

Online and Community Support

In today’s digital world, online communities play an increasingly vital role in support networks. For young adults with ADHD, virtual groups can provide access to peers who share similar experiences and challenges.

Benefits of Online Communities

• Validation: Realizing that others face the same struggles reduces isolation.
  
  
• Practical advice: Members share tips for studying, budgeting, or managing relationships.
  
  
• Flexibility: Online groups can be accessed anytime, fitting busy or unpredictable schedules.
  
  
• Global connection: Students and professionals worldwide can share diverse experiences.

Research shows that peer-based interventions, including online groups, improve self-esteem, social functioning, and coping skills in individuals with ADHD (Mikami et al., 2015).

Finding the Right Communities

• Social media groups: Many platforms host ADHD-focused communities.
  
  
• University or local groups: Student mental health offices often run peer groups.
  
  
• Professional organizations: ADHD associations provide both local and online options.
  
  
• Support apps: Platforms that connect users with accountability partners or peer coaches.

Choosing communities that are positive, respectful, and well-moderated ensures supportive and healthy interactions.

Integrating Networks for Stronger Support

The most resilient support systems combine friendships, mentors, and online communities. Together, these networks provide:

• Practical support: Help with academics, careers, or life skills.
  
  
• Emotional resilience: Encouragement during setbacks.
  
  
• Accountability: Motivation to stay on track with personal goals.
  
  
• Belonging: A sense of community where ADHD is understood and accepted.

By cultivating diverse networks, young adults with ADHD reduce reliance on any single source of support, creating balance and flexibility.

The Role of Universities and Families

Universities can:

• Offer peer mentoring and ADHD awareness programs.
  
  
• Provide accessible student-led ADHD groups.
  
  
• Support mental health services tailored to ADHD challenges.

Families can:

• Encourage independence while offering emotional support.
  
  
• Model healthy communication and problem-solving.
  
  
• Celebrate progress and resilience, reinforcing self-confidence.

When both families and institutions collaborate, young adults are more likely to thrive academically, socially, and emotionally.

When Professional Help is Needed

Support networks are invaluable, but some challenges require professional guidance. Therapy, ADHD coaching, or counselling may help with emotional regulation, executive functioning, or relationship skills. Research indicates that combined approaches, peer support alongside professional interventions, yield the best outcomes for young adults with ADHD (Barkley et al., 2008).

Final Thoughts

Young adulthood is a period of possibility. For those with ADHD, building a strong network of friends, mentors, and communities can make the difference between isolation and thriving. Each connection provides encouragement, accountability, and belonging.

ADHD brings both challenges and strengths, energy, creativity, and authenticity. When young adults are surrounded by supportive people who value these qualities, they are empowered to reach their goals and navigate independence with confidence.

Every young adult with ADHD deserves a network that helps them flourish socially, academically, and emotionally.

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References

Barkley, R. A., Murphy, K. R., & Fischer, M. (2008). ADHD in adults: What the science says. New York: Guilford Press. Link

Mikami, A. Y., Szwedo, D. E., & Allen, J. P. (2015). Social skills training and peer relationships in young adulthood: Implications for ADHD. Journal of Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychology, 44(4), 659–672. Link